Honoring the Child You Never Knew
No matter what stage of pregnancy you are in when it happens, having a miscarriage is beyond devastating. After I had my miscarriage I desperately wanted something I could hold on to to honor my babies. Very few people knew that I was pregnant or that I had miscarried. The isolating feeling that no one knew that these precious babies had existed rocked me to my core. I yearned for something that I could look at, wear, or touch daily to honor them and to acknowledge that they existed and were loved. It sounds so trivial now, wanting a “keepsake” to honor a baby lost through miscarriage…but having that solid thing to touch, to wear close to my heart, or to look at on a daily basis has truly helped me so much. My hope is that by sharing ways to honor a baby lost through miscarriage that were so helpful to me, that someone else going through this experience can feel a little more peace and can be comforted by keeping the memory of their child close.
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Ways to Honor a Baby Lost Through Miscarriage
Plant a tree or Garden
This is one of my favorite ways to honor a baby lost through miscarriage. A tree can be planted anytime, but I especially love the idea of planting a tree on the baby’s due date. The thought of the tree growing as the baby would have grown is so symbolic.
After I miscarried, I came across the organization Held Your Whole Life. This organization is a wonderful resource for parents who have suffered miscarriage or stillbirth. Held Your Whole Life makes personalized necklaces for mothers and keychains for fathers that have lost a child through miscarriage or stillbirth. You only have to pay the cost of shipping. We received a necklace and keychain for our babies from Held Your Whole Life and they mean so much to me. I love the support and love that this organization provides for families going through the unimaginable and I really recommend checking them out if you have had a miscarriage.
Another place that I love for personalized or meaningful jewelry is Lisa Leonard Designs. I love the heart behind Lisa’s jewelry and behind Lisa herself! Her jewelry is symbolic and many pieces can be customized with initials, names, or birthstones.
Get a Tattoo
I didn’t get a tattoo after my miscarriage, but I’m honestly still considering it! As soon as I turned 18 I got a tattoo and there is absolutely no meaning behind it. I love the idea of something small and simple and I love the permanency of it. Here is a great idea for a tattoo to honor a baby lost through miscarriage.
Personalized Ornament or an Angel Ornament
Ornaments are a sweet way of remembering your loss during the holidays. In my family, my sister and I always decorated the Christmas tree. I loved putting ornaments on the tree that had a story or that were meaningful in some way. An ornament that honored a loss would be a very special story to share with my son when he gets older. Here are some of my favorite ornaments. Shutterfly also has ornaments that can be personalized with photos and names.
There are many different keepsakes you can use to honor a baby lost through miscarriage. Journals, keychains, figurines, memory boxes, wall hangings, and picture frames are just some of the options available.
I hope you all can find a keepsake that is meaningful for you and helps you to keep the memory of your sweet little ones close! If you have a keepsake already, let me know what it is! I was overwhelmed by all the stories you all shared about your miscarriages in my post on what I never knew about miscarriages and I would love to hear about the ways you keep the memory of your babies close to your heart.